Meet Timothy and Adwoa Ramsay the passion driven church and community leaders. 

Pastor Timothy Ramsay and his wife Minister Adwoa Ramsay are childhood sweethearts and they have been together for 27 years and married for 23 years.  The pair met at a local high school athletics meet but it was far from love at first sight.

“That was the first time we ever saw each other, he didn’t like me and I didn’t like him- I thought he looked like a frog,” Adwoa shared with The Voice. 

Tim thought Adwoa was loud and obnoxious, she had recently moved to their local town of Luton from New York. 

“I was from New York and obviously these English boys couldn’t handle that. That’s what it was!” Adwoa joked. 

It was on Tim’s 17th birthday that the fate of these two changed, Tim had recently broken up with his then girlfriend 

“I  had started to feel her [Adwoa] a little bit. Usually, with my ex-girlfriend I’d pursue a bit and we’d be back together but this time I just left it. 

“So then on my 17th birthday, there was a get-together and that’s when I made my move on,” Tim explained. 

Tim who a young casanova at the time quickly became infatuated with Adwoa much to the surprise of friends and family.  “We had quite a few people that just didn’t want us to be together, it was just weird. They just didn’t want to see us,” Adwoa said.

Despite this, the couple strived they got married a few years later and have been together ever since. 

Best Moments

Tim is 44 and Adwoa is 42 and they describe their wedding day as one the best moments they shared. 

“Where it started – our wedding because that was basically a faith decision, we were so young, I was 20 and Adwoa was 18,” Tim explained. 

Eight months prior to the wedding Adwoa got baptised and at Adwoa’s baptism, Tim also gave his life to Lord which was the beginning of a new chapter. “We didn’t know if we were ready for marriage but we had been through so much and we both knew this was the person I’m supposed to be with for the rest of my life and we also knew we wanted to please God,” Adwoa explains.

Since giving their lives to the Lord the couple continued to grow in faith and around 4 years later they started their own ministry together. 

“Doing ministry together has been an amazing journey. In terms of becoming pastors we’ve had so many challenges if I’d been doing that alone, without my wife, it would have been a disaster. It’s really solidified rather than break us apart.  It’s just me and her against the world you know,” Tim explained.

The couple have three children together Timmika, Shiloh and Josiah plus a 6 year old granddaughter Lylaa-Rose. 

Adwoa also describes the birth of their granddaughter as one of the greatest moments that they have shared. 

“I feel like when Lylaa was born it was another moment of realisation this is our family, this is what has come from us and I think that was another amazing moment for us that solidified our union,”

Greatest Challenge

“Very early on in our marriage because we were so young. We truly had to mature under the microscope that is marriage. 

“Marriage amplifies so much of what’s inside us your characteristics, your immaturity, selfishness, those things get revealed in the covenant of marriage,” Tim explained. 

Tim was the youngest among his siblings a definite mummy’s boy and Adwoa had been raised to be very self-sufficient and independent.  

“You’re boyfriend and girlfriend and that’s cute but when you are in the house, with this person, 24-7, having to learn how to communicate and deal with things that you didn’t see before. It was really hard. The first 8 years of our marriage was hell,” Adwoa explained. 

It was God who kept these two together they shared that every time things got really crazy there would be divine intervention. 

“One of the things that we realised is that the community does not dictate who we are. So what we’ve tried to do, especially recently is really live for the audience of one and understand that people’s opinions are always going to change.  We pray, we go forward, and we move with God

“We didn’t really do dates, we didn’t have a honeymoon like that, it was a ghetto love, a hood romance. We didn’t know about the boundaries that we needed to set, we didn’t know about the communicational boundaries that we needed to set, we didn’t know about the time that we needed to set aside,” the couple shared. 

“One of the most explosive times she did try to kill me and I thank God that he didn’t allow our issues to take over but instead present a real opportunity to rebuild and that’s what we did literally started again,” Tim shared. 

Advice for making it work

Adwoa and Tim are community leaders and part of a large faith network, they share their life online and also are very transparent as a couple and family. 

“One of the things that we realised is that the community does not dictate who we are. So what we’ve tried to do, especially recently is really live for the audience of one and understand that people’s opinions are always going to change.  We pray, we go forward, and we move with God,” Adwoa explains. 

The couple also provide marriage counselling and you can find out more about this as well as receive marriage encouragement via Instagram @2minutemarriage

They advise on finances, intimacy and communication to name a few. 

“You’re not enemies. You are a couple, you’re together, you’re on the same team.  Ultimately, that’s how I think every couple has to approach finance, understand that it’s not about mine it’s about us and not about I, it’s our finances,” Tim advises. 

“I would also say laugh a whole lot like, have fun. Please have fun, because so many couples don’t know how to do that anymore,” Adowoa shared. 

The couple are graced filled and they encourage others to be the same.   “Let your marriage be filled with grace, if you allow your marriage to be filled with grace, you will have a marriage that will last for as long as you are here on this earth.  Grace covers you, it empowers you. And it gives you the ability to grow,” Adwoa explained. 

Pastor Tim Ramsay also reminds couples to touch and show affectionate regularly even in the presence of family and friends. He also encourages couples to forgive each other quickly and don’t carry arguments into a new day. 

The Voice is excited to see what the future holds for this couple, they have many exciting projects on the way and you can keep up with the couple on Instagram via @revtlr and @adwoagodsgirl